It has taken me years to speak up and stand up for myself.

Some family members, so-called friends, crushes, boyfriends and a husband expect me to stay submissive.

They have judged my mental, physical health, emotional and spirituality being when I speak openly.

Hand gestures of a stop sign are used repeatedly to make me be quiet , so they can dominant the conversations.

Raised voices and cutting me off to silence me.

Being told , “you are fat, lazy, a bad wife and mother.”

Everything about you is criticized except your long hair.

Taking your money, food, gifts, love and soul.

Lying to me, hiding things and people, and verbal threats.

Cheating and leading me on to boost their own egos and play the dating games.

Pretending to be the “Good Guy” while flirting with other women –right in front of me.

I have never truly experienced love from a man.

Maybe I never will.

I am happy being with my friends and family–and alone.

Close girlfriends tell me he is out there.

I pray we will cross paths someday.

For now, I am more selective who I share my love and goodness with.

This time I will walk away if I am not honored and respected.

Distance and boundaries are also important for me with some family, friends, strangers, and co-workers.

I share some of my stories and experiences to lift up others and encourage them to stand up for themselves. These people are my past and I move on to others whom will treat me well.